Walking this morning, a humorous episode came to my mind. I was taking care of a very alert aware gentleman. He instructed his new gardener how he wanted his fence to be painted. Walking with the walker, he rounded up all the items, supervising her. Being new, she went along with it. It lasted until she had to undo the cap of the paint thinner; she was not able to do it. For a woman as tough and strong as she was, it was not likely she was unable to remove the plastic top. That was when she let off her steam.

Containing her feelings, controlling herself she let the gentleman know she is well able to do the job on her own. She knew what she had to do and would be able to work better without supervising eyes on her.

I laughed listening to her. Obviously, she has not worked with the really elderly. She was fighting a losing battle there. He stayed conveniently deaf and did not move from his perch until he had directed her to the last detail.

I learned that from looking after my mother. Peace comes from doing things when she wants it, not a minute later and how she wants it.